Domestic Violence Part III

Assault on a Woman’s Worth

WHY DOES HE DO IT?

  • He grew up watching abuse between his parents.
  • He experienced abuse as a child.
  • He views her as a possession instead of as a person.
  • He thinks using force is his right as a husband.
  • He fears losing her.
  • He blames her for his low self-esteem.
  • He believes his power demonstrates his superiority.
  • He wants of feel significant and in control.
  • He possesses an unbiblical view of submission.
  • He has learned that violence works.

WHY DOESN’T SHE LEAVE?

  • She is terrified of her husband and what he will do if she leaves.
  • She is afraid he will take her children.
  • She has an incorrect understanding of biblical submission.
  • She is manipulated by his threats of suicide.
  • She blames herself and believes she deserves to be abused.
  • She feels that any father for the children is better than no father.
  • She fears she can’t make it financially without him.
  • She has been told she is insane, and she fears that is true.
  • She doesn’t know there are organizations and services that can help her.

IS IT ALL RIGHT TO LEAVE A VIOLENT OR THREATENING SITUATION?

In the bible a hierarchy of submission exists, with God being the highest authority. Scripture reveals that godly people sometimes physically separate from their ungodly authorities. Biblically, we are to submit to our governing authorities, yet David fled King Saul with God’s blessing. Although David was one of the king’s subjects, when Saul’s actions became violent, David escaped:

“The LORD was with David but had left Saul… Saul tried to pin him to the wall with his spear, but David eluded him as Saul drove the spear into the wall. That night David made good his escape” (I Samuel 18:12; 19:10).

WHY DOES SHE LEAVE?

  • She finally realizes he will not change if circumstances remain the same.
  • She understands that leaving may be the only way to get her husband to change.
  • He is now acting out his threats of abuse.
  • His abuse is occurring more frequently.
  • He has begun to abuse the children.
  • She wants to prevent the children form imitating his behavior.
  • She has found help through friends, family, church, or professional organizations.
  • She realizes it is not God ‘s will for anyone to be abused.
  • She is afraid for her life or for the lives of her children.
  • She realizes there is a thin line between threats and homicide.

IS LEAVING AN ABUSIVE HUSBAND UNBIBLICAL?

The bible teaches wives are to submit to their husbands. So isn’t leaving an abusive husband against the teaching of the Bible? No. the Bibles give specific instruction to the wife of a hot-tempered man. When she is in danger, temporary separation is appropriate:

“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered” (Proverbs 22:24).

 

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