Sexual Assault Recovery Rescued and Restored And Just So You Will Know Part 4

How To Replace Fear With Faith Perhaps more than any other grop of people, rape victims experience frequent defeat because of lies they believe in their ongoing battle with fear about themselves, the future, and God. The best way to combat lies is to replace fear with faith. Assess the lies believed, then every single day commit to believing God’s truth because “the truth will set you free” (John 8:32).

Fear: I can’t get through this.

Faith: The Lord your God will walk with you all the way through to the end. (Isaiah 43:2).

Fear: I’ll never stop crying

Faith: In time, weeping will wane, and joy will return to your hear. (Psalm 30:5).

Fear: I will always feel dirty.

Faith: A dirty-minded person did something despicable to you, but you are not dirty! Every day, claim your true identity in Christ -you are holy in His sight. (Colossians 1:22)

Fear: no good could ever come out of this.

Faith: God promises that what others do for evil, He will use for good. In time, you will see this promise fulfilled in your life. (Romans 8:28).

Fear: No one will want to marry me.

Faith: Until the Lord brings a husband into your life, He promises to be your husband, provider, and protector. (Isaiah 54:5).

Fear: I will never want sexual intimacy. My memories are too painful.

Faith: The Lord is able to heal all emotional hurt, no matter how severe the memories. (Jeremiah 17:14).

Fear: I don’t have the strength to go on.

Faith: When you don’t have strength to live form day to day, the Lord Jesus will give you his strength (Read Isaiah 40:28-31). (Philippians 4:13).

Fear: I will always be consumed by fear.

Faith: All people experience fear when their lives are truly in danger – that is normal. But the Lord will deliver you form excessive fear because of his presence within you. (Deuteronomy 31:8).

Fear: I have no hoe for the future.

Faith: Because God is a God of hope, your future is safe in His hands. (Jeremiah 29:11).

New Jerusalem Ministries Center For Abused Children  is a faith based 501 (c)(3) organization therefore we service people from anywhere. We have a child abuse, domestic violence and sexual assault victims housing program and our mission is to preserve the dignity of victims, provide nonjudgmental services that foster self-respect and independence in individuals experiencing intimate partner violence or parental abuse, and to lead the effort to end domestic violence through advocacy and community education.  For more information, visit http://www.breathehealandgetmoving.com .

We are committed to the safety of adult and child survivors, and to holding offenders responsible and accountable for the violence they have committed. We recognize that maintaining the privacy of survivors and their children, and assuring the safety and confidentiality of the information they give is paramount.  We believe that survivors have a right to self-determination, involvement in the design of systems intended to provide them help, and to effective individual and community responses to the violence they have experienced.  We require that any NJM Center For Abused Children’s partners, or collaborators offer individualized, strengths-based services that are culturally sensitive and reflective of effective cross-cultural practice.   We make services available to all eligible individuals regardless of age, ethnicity/race, gender, religious preference, ability, disability, gender identity, sexual orientation or income.

 

 

 

 

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Sexual Assault Recovery-Rescued and Restored & Just So You Will Know Part 3

How Do You Walk Through This Season of S-U-F-F-E-R-I-N-G?

The path to recovery is ling and steep, with deliberate steps needed to leave the ditch. But don’t languish in shame over something that wasn’t your fault. Gain emotional wholeness on the Road to Transformation, where hope and healing abound!

S Seek God’s supernatural help to overcome the negative consequences of rape (1 John 5:14-15).

U Understand that no one is protected from tragedy (Matthew 5:45).

F Forgive the offender, and leave the revenge to God. Ask God for the power of Christ to do this in you – you cannot do it yourself (Romans 12:19).

F Forgive others – family members and friends who have let you down (Colossians 3:23).

E Exchange you old identity for your new identity in the person of Christ (Galatians 2:20).

R Remember, the Lord is your Shepherd (Psalm 23:1-2)

I Incorporate reading and meditating on Scripture along with listening to praise music as a daily habit (Psalm 119:50).

N Notice and encourage other around you who are hurting. Your sensitivity and compassion for others will be a blessing to them and healing to you (2 Corinthians 1:3-4).

G Glorify Christ by allowing His splendor to be displayed through you (Isaiah 49:1-2).

 

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Sexual Assault Recovery-Rescued and Restored & Just So You Will Know Part 2

What Are The Three States To Recovery

The T-R-A-U-M-A

For approximately two days to two weeks, the victim is traumatized:

T Terror – Extreme fear, causing flashbacks, nightmares

R Refusal – Denial, causing memory loss or minimizing

A Anger- Rage, causing an inability to eat or sleep

U Uncontrollable actions – Feeling overwhelmed, causing hysteria, sobbing

M Misplaced guilt – Self-blame, causing nausea, diarrhea

A Anxiety – Apprehension, causing severe muscle tension, fatigue

The rape victim has the same reactions recorded by the writer fo Psalm 55:4-7:

“My heart is in anguish within me; the terrors of death assail me. Fear and trembling have beset me; horror has overwhelmed me… Oh, that i had the wings of a dove! I would fly away and be at rest.”

The Teetering State

For up to a year or longer, perhaps until death, the victim will teeter up and down, sometimes suppressing emotions and sometime surfacing emotions.

Fears of the Victim

  • being alone
  • being followed
  • strange places
  • the rape site
  • the inability to judge character
  • pregnancy
  • venereal disease, AIDS
  • intimacy
  • the rejection of love ones

The rape survivor will feel increased calm by repeating over and over, in prayer, “When I am afraid, I will trust in you” (Psalm 56:3)

The Trusting Stage

Some survivors never make it to this stage. Those who do will experience peace. “I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety” (Psalm 4:8).

The survivor views the incident with a balanced perspective…

– not trusting everyone,but selecting trustworthy friends. “Jesus would not entrust himself to them for he knew all men” (John 2:24).

– not trust circumstances, but trusting God, who is over all circumstances (Proverbs 3:5-6)

What Are The ABC’s Of Immediate Response To Rape?

A. Assure your own safety (read Psalm 23)

– Move to a secure place of safety and wrap yourself in a warm blanket (or something if possible).

– Breathe very deeply to get more oxygen to the brain, so as not to become lightheaded or faint.

– Repeat positive affirmations, prayers, scripture- such as…

“The LORD is my shepherd… I will fear no evil” (Psalm 23:14).

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B Begin a support system (Proverbs 23:12)

– Report incident to the police (don’t wash or shower-this will help preserve physical evidence).

– Ask a friend to take you to a medical care facility to check for injuries and STDs (sexually transmitted diseases)

– Seek legal advice to learn the rights of rape victims.

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C Call on others for emotional support (Proverbs 18:24)

– Call someone you trust

-Call a rape crisis center

-Seek professional counseling

 

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Sexual Assault Recovery-Rescued and Restored & Just So You Will Know Part 1

That which was designed by God to be an expression of love can be twisted into a horrendous and hateful act. Rape is a vile act of violence that humiliates and degrades like no other, assaulting body, soul and spirit and sending the victim into a ditch of shock and shame. In the midst of a victim’s suffering, the Lord sees and grieves, and is willing to bring emotional help and spiritual hope for true inner healing.  “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

What is Rape? Rape is sexual intercourse by threat, force, or deception, victimizing males as well as females. It is grossly misunderstood:

Myth: Women secretly want to be raped.

Truth: No one wants to be a victim of a violent criminal act. No one wants to be violated either sexually or emotionally by another person. Ezekiel 45:9 says, “Give up your violence and oppression and do what is just and right.”

Myth: Rape fulfills sexual needs.

Truth: Rape is not about sex. Within God’s heart sex is an act of love. Within a rapist’s heart, sex is an act of violence. In fact, rape and sex are opposites. By definition, sex requires consent. But sex without consent is rape. Genesis 19:7 call rape “wicked.” When men from Sodom and Gomorrah were intent on rape, they were told, “Don’t do this wicked thing.”

What are Different Categories of Rape?

Statutory rape is sexual intercourse with a female or male under the legal age of consent, with or without force and when the victimizer is more than two years older than the victim.

Consent is not an issue, and the legal age of consent varies from state to state or region.

Aggravated sexual assault is a legal term used in the prosecution of a statutory rape offense.

Stranger Rape is forced sexual intercourse by one who is unknown to the victim.

Myth: Provocative women cause rape.

Truth: No one causes one person to rape another. The most probable victim is someone who appears vulnerable. Regardless of how a person dresses or behaves, no one deserves to be raped. The responsibility lies with the rapist, not the victim (Psalm 36:2-4).

Date/Acquaintance Rape is non-consensual sexual intercourse by people socially acquainted.

-The vast majority of rapes are committed by someone known to the victim (boyfriend, relative, coworker, neighbor, friend, spouse). These rapes are the most difficult to convince a victim to report. Yet Ecclesiastes 8:11 warns, “When the sentence for a crime is not quickly carried out, the hearts of the people are filled with schemes to do wrong.”

-The Jewish law clearly communicates the severe consequences of rape in ancient Israel (Deuteronomy 22:25-26).

Mate Rape is forced sexual relations by a husband.

-Unfortunately, many states exempt a husband from prosecution for the rape of his wife.

Myth: A wife must be subject to sexual relations at anytime with her husband. The Bible says wives are never to deprive their husbands sexually (1 Corinthians 7:4).

Truth: A wife is not a piece of property. Sexual expression was designed by God to be an act of love, not violence. Forced sex is not love, but is the opposite. The Bible is clear: ” Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19).

Gang/group/pack rape is sexual assault b y two or more people and is one of the most cruel and brutal crimes imaginable (Judges 19:25).

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Because We Are All In This Together

New Jerusalem Ministries Center For Abused Children  is a faith based 501 (c)(3) organization therefore we service people from anywhere. Its domestic violence and sexual assault mission is to preserve the dignity of victims, provide nonjudgmental services that foster self-respect and independence in individuals experiencing intimate partner violence, and to lead the effort to end domestic violence through advocacy and community education.  For more information, visit http://www.breathehealandgetmoving.com

We are committed to the safety of adult and child survivors, and to holding offenders responsible and accountable for the violence they have committed. We recognize that maintaining the privacy of survivors and their children, and assuring the safety and confidentiality of the information they give is paramount.  We believe that survivors have a right to self-determination, involvement in the design of systems intended to provide them help, and to effective individual and community responses to the violence they have experienced. We require that any New Jerusalem Center For Abused Children’s contracted partners, or collaborators offer individualized, strengths-based services that are culturally sensitive and reflective of effective cross-cultural practice.   We make services available to all eligible individuals regardless of age, ethnicity/race, gender, religious preference, ability, disability, gender identity, sexual orientation or income.

Our Housing Characteristics

Through innovative collaborations and partnerships with Real Estate Developers, Mental Health Professionals and Advocates CFAC  “Breathe… Heal… And Get Moving”  Homes are able to offer each guest the most comprehensive wrap around services under one roof  thereby reducing additional inconveniences while recovering from the traumatic events which lead them to becoming guest.  Such supportive services as:

  • Complete Comprehensive Case Management
  • Mental Health Services/Behavioral Health Services
  • Professional Counseling
  • Job Training & Preparation Support
  • Transitional and Permanent Supportive Housing Assistance
  • Support Groups
  • Trauma Therapy and Workshops
  • Substance Abuse Counseling or Treatment Referral

Our homes feature will be:

  • Fully Furnished (Apartment Styles Homes)
  • Have activity space large enough for meetings
  • Have a resource library and computers alcoves for homework and job searching
  • Offer private space for holistic case management services
  • 24 Hours Staff Monitors and 24 Hours Security Camera Monitoring Systems
  • Children Play Therapy Area
  • And many more features

The Breathe Heal And Get Moving Model

  1. Enter into our emergency 30 days shelter (extension available)
  2. Upon completion successful the guest can qualify for transitional housing for up to 24 months
  3. Upon completing successful transitional living all participates will receive permanent supporting housing.

Partnerships

New Jerusalem Ministries (Center For Abused Children) “Breathe … Heal … And Get Moving “ Homes welcomes to partner with any domestic violence or sexual assault service organization nationally.  If your agency finds itself short of bed space we will be honor to assist. Just give us a call at 202-450-4014 and speak with Grace Contee.

Vetting

Just so you will know that all staff  and volunteers has been cleared through:

  • Child and Family Service Agency (CFSA,
  • FBI Clearances, and
  • MPD records check;
  • Sexual Registry
  • All clinical staff are licensed in the District of Columbia and licensure on hand.

Contact:

Gwen Pless -Director of Compliance and MOU/MOA/Partnerships

Grace Contee – Director of Emergency Housing

Website: www.breathehealandgetmoving.com  Ofc: 202-450-4014 or 202-450-4356

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Turning Away Victims

“Last year how many times did Washington D.C. had to say ‘NO’ 1,740 times for emergency housing and 1,422 for emergency transitional housing. “These are just some of the women who sought help; who needed a safe place to go to escape from an abusive relationships.

These are the women who did not receive what they so desperately needed because the lack of safe haven beds were unavailable in the District of Columbia and the getting worse.

When did Housing victims become so political? Why is it becoming territorial? The number of requests that exceeded available beds has been steadily increasing each year. Without sufficient emergency housing, victims are more likely to stay with their abusive partners, a dangerous situation that can be lethal. Last year, District of Columbia experienced 13 domestic homicides.

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